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No Guilt Feelings

Feelings of guilt can destroy any relationship, vanilla or D/s. Furthermore, in a D/s relationship feelings of guilt can stop the dominant from demanding that her wishes are met. Feelings of guilt are negative and should not be allowed to grow within a relationship.

Last night Mistress was feeling a bit low. She has been working very hard as of late making her tired, her time of the month is coming about making her a bit emotional, and she is just a little under the weather. These three things combined served to put her in a bit of a funk last night.

At bedtime she spent some time with Cuckold, sharing the affection we hold for each other. During that time she mentioned to him in passing that she just didn’t feel up to sex with her lover, that she would be climbing into bed with only some good quality sleep on her mind.

Not too long after she left him Cuckold heard the sounds of her achieving orgasm. Quite obviously her lover was able to seduce the negative feelings out of her, and replace them with a positive desire for sex and orgasm.

Some women may feel thoughts of guilt over cuckolding their husbands, yet they should not. Had Mistress a long time ago not demanded that Cuckold obey her demands for a rather extreme form of cuckolding relationship she would not have had a lover available to her last night who was both willing and able to make her feel a bit better.

Some women may feel thoughts of guilt over denying sexual privileges to their husbands, yet they should not. Had Mistress a long time ago not demanded that Cuckold obey her demands for a complete ban upon sexual contact between him and her, he would likely have tried to seduce her to make her feel better, failed to do so due to his inferior abilities in that area, and ruined whatever chance she had to find sexual pleasure last night which would have made him feel bad, and her feel worse.

An entire foundation of D/s relationships is the recognition that the dominant partner has a right to have her needs met, as she sees fit. She should surely never feel guilty over demanding that this happen. Even if her desires are extreme as Mistress’s desires for Cuckold are there is still no reasonable cause for guilt feelings within her, as her selfishness is a vital part of the relationship, and the relationship could not remain happy without it.

Some men may feel thoughts of guilt when they are unable to meet the needs of their wives. For example, the vanilla man in a situation similar to that which we faced last night might drift off to sleep feeling just a tad bit guilty that he was unable to make his wife feel a bit better.

In our relationship, last night, Cuckold was made to feel no such thoughts, in fact, he was able to feel just the opposite, pride in the fact that he did help to make her feel better.

He has obeyed her demands for an extreme form of cuckolding, so last night there was a lover in her bed who is far superior to Cuckold in seducing her and taking her mind off the stresses of the day.

He has obeyed her demands to not touch her delightful bits in an erotic way, so last night there was no chance for him to clumsily attempt a seduction of her which would have only made him feel badly, and her feel even worse when it failed.

Instead, through his obedience he was able to do his part to make her feel better, to ensure her orgasm before she drifted off to sleep. He can feel pride in that fact.

Through extremely selfish demands on the part of Mistress, and absolute obedience to those demands on the part of Cuckold we are able to experience far fewer negative emotions, and that is always a wonderful thing, and a wonderful way to live.

Vocabulary

We are sometimes disappointed in the limitations of vocabulary. Sometimes we just lack a word that can properly convey a meaning. This can happen of course through lack of knowledge, but it can also happen because of the limits of vocabulary itself. When a word just doesn’t exist for something.

We think that we are up against that second frustration now. Unfortunately the first can always be remedied by sitting down with a very good dictionary, but this second limitation, the lack of a word for something just can’t be easily addressed.

Our frustration is with gender characteristic description.

Cuckold is not feminine. He isn’t a Sissy, a cross dresser, or a TV. He dresses like a man, he appears as a man, and generally he acts like a man. It is not though at all reasonable to think of him as masculine.

Masculine men do not cheerfully climb into their beds while their wives are in the marital bed enjoying another man.

Masculine men get angry and complain if their wives do things to humiliate them over very private subjects in public.

Masculine men do not accept that their wives may cut them off from sex and sexual contact entirely, while the wife receives regular sexual service from another man.

Masculine men do not spontaneously and sincerely thank their wives for allowing them the rare treat of sniffing their cunts, a thanks prompted by how very seldom such a thing is allowed.

Masculine men do not allow a wife the right to decide when, where, how, and if the husband will be allowed orgasm.

Cuckold accepts that he is such joyfully. He obeys his wife’s demand that he never have sex of any kind with her. He accepts her parading the fact of his cuckolding around in public. He accepts her rights of control over his ability to orgasm. To consider him masculine is absurd.

Likewise though, it would be equally absurd to call or consider him feminine.

A third option for truly panty whipped, wife led, and obedient boys would sure be nice.

Links

We have added three links to our blog:

Mrs. Kelly’s Playhouse

Cuckold Husband

Mistress Milliscent

We have greatly enjoyed reading these three blogs, and think that you will too.

Live-Blogging, The Conclusion

The Mistress did find her satisfaction, and has just ended a quick visit with Cuckold. He wasn’t allowed to worship her ass after all, but he received a very special treat. He was allowed to sniff her very fragrant cunt, something he has not been permitted to do for a very long time now.

We spent a few minutes holding each other, and whispering sweet nothings to each other, as Mistress got a bit vicious with Cuckolds nipples.

As she was leaving his bed he was informed that he will be allowed an orgasm tonight, wanking himself off alone of course, but that after tonight he is not to have another until she grants permission. He sincerely hopes that she does not forget that she has placed him in denial, for he knows better than to ever hint at a need for release!

Her directive given he was permitted a quick peck on the cheek of her ass, and she was gone.

We wonder how long it may be before Mistress allows Cuckold to cum again?

Live-Blogging, A Typical Saturday Night

We decided that it would be fun to post tonight’s activities as they are happening. So, here goes.

Just a few minutes ago Cuckold was kneeling before Mistress. He got to kiss her beautiful ass (through her slacks) and have his nipples twisted as she talked to him about the sex she was looking forward to having this fine evening. She also instructed him to plug his ass, and leave the plug in place while she is enjoying her lover, this so that Cuckold can have his hole worked at the same time hers is licked. Finally she told Cuckold that if he was very lucky she just might come down and allow him to kiss her ass after she and her lover are satisfied.

Cuckold of course now has the plug, a nice steel one firmly implanted in his ass, and he hopes that her lover satisfies her quickly tonight for that certainly increases his chances of getting to place his lips, and perhaps his tongue upon her delicious ass.

Cuckold is in his bedroom, Mistress in hers above him. She and her lover are engaging in the extended foreplay they both enjoy so much, and Mistress’s moans of pleasure, and perhaps her lovers grunts of joy should be wafting down to Cuckolds ears eventually. For now it seems that laughter is their choice of erotic play.

If Mistress chooses to not come allow Cuckold to kiss her ass goodnight he will be permitted to remove the plug from his own ass after Mistress and her lover are finished pleasuring each other.

Now the laughter has stopped, and Mistress’s sighs have begun.

We wonder what all the Vanilla people are doing this fine Saturday night!

Reality

We understand that many people who stumble upon this journal will decide that it’s just plain wrong. That Cuckold has allowed himself to be too far degraded, and that Mistress is just plain evil in her treatment of him.

To that we can only respond:

Cuckold is living in a marriage filled with love, having erotic sexual fantasies met in very powerful ways, and has a home filled with Mistress’s joy. He may look degraded to outsiders, but is he? Virtually every married couple we know is an unhappy one to one extent or another. Those ‘normal’ people are the ones who are degrading themselves and those they supposedly love.

Mistress may be cruel, but is cruelty evil if the object of her cruelty delights in it? Last night she sat upon his bed wearing a robe, a quick visit to tell him goodnight. He wanted so badly to reach into that robe, to stroke her breasts, but of course he did not for she reserves such intimacies for other men. This morning he woke with a raging erection and the erotic thought ‘boyfriends coming to visit tonight!’

Link Trade?

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Chastity & Cuckolding

It is unfortunate, but in our experience the majority of married submissive men are married to women who just aren’t interested in female domination. Sometimes a husband does succeed in bringing this new joy to his wife, but alas we think that a husband successfully making a vanilla wife into a kinky wife is quite rare.

Also, in our experience, we know that a great many men are most interested in their fantasies of chastity, and that they view tease and denial / orgasm control games a good starting point in their discussions about femdom with their wives. Said hubby figures that most women would jump at the chance of having his cock locked away just for her, and admittedly such domination takes very little effort on the wives part for the husband to experience tremendous effect. This is why sales of the CB3000 and its brothers are so very high.

Alas though, we don’t think that very many wives at all take their husbands up on their offers of, and pleas for chastity. We think that loads of chastity devices are sold; yet very few are worn. We think this is because the submissive men are forgetting something very important about women. Women, even those with low libidos, want a man around whom they can fuck, even women who wholly prefer receiving oral sex to intercourse want a strong, virile man around. These women are of course fearful that the imposition of chastity on their husbands will harm the sexual abilities of their men, and of course they are correct. Physically, psychologically, emotionally, one way or the other the man who looses the ability to control his own orgasm will change a little, or a lot.

We have a suggestion to share which we believe could help a great many of the men out there who just haven’t been able to convince their wives to embrace the concept and practice of male orgasm denial.

Our suggestion is simply that the submissive husband who desires a chastity lifestyle, even a femdom lifestyle, not waste his time encouraging his wife to lock his little peepee away, or start buying fancy floggers, for his chances of success just aren’t great given her fears of loosing her sexual partner and often the fear of loosing some measure of respect for her husband. Both of which must be recognized as valid fears.

Instead he should we think simply make his femdom, chastity desires known to her, and then encourage her to go out and find a nice man or two, or ten to fuck. If she does this he should encourage her outside explorations, and help her with them all he can. We don’t mean help her by helping her get dressed in her sexiest lingerie before her dates either, although this can admittedly be amazingly fun for both husband and wife, we mean help her by babysitting the kids while she is out, taking care of the house while she is out so that she can enjoy her date without worrying about what a mess her husband is making while she is away.

Once she finds that man or those men who can provide her with great sex she will loose her fears about keeping her husband in chastity, for she will know that she need not rely upon him for her sexual needs.

There you have it, our advice to all of the submissive husbands unable to get their wives interested in bdsm. We hope that perhaps it will be helpful to someone.

Cuckolding comes before chastity. Presenting femdom to a wife in this order we think will greatly enhance a submissive males chances of success.

Our Introduction

Now that we have some necessary background posts out of the way, we would like to introduce ourselves to those readers who find this journal first.

For purposes of this journal, we shall call her Mistress. In her late 30’s and so very sexy that she has been featured in two glossy fetish magazines, both from Europe with worldwide distribution. She has been very heavily involved with bdsm her entire adult life, not a day passing for her without some bit of female domination, and on average a formal scene with a submissive every other day or so. She has in the past, briefly, oh so amazingly briefly, tried the submissive role. This very short experience simply proved to her that she is a dominant at heart.

For purposes of this journal, we shall call him Cuckold. Also in his late 30’s and at the top of his game in his chosen field of endeavor. He has also been heavily involved with bdsm his entire adult life, although admittedly not at her extreme level of daily involvement. He has traditionally played the dominant role, yet always harbored the strongest fantasies for the submissive role. His early submissive experiences did not however endear that position to him.

They have been happily, and successfully married for just under 20 years. Needless to say based upon what is written above, they learned early on that they were not compatible with each other when it came to bdsm. Two dominants just don’t make a scene. Obviously this was bothersome to them both, so they did keep trying to figure out how to play together through the years, yet alas, those efforts came to no avail.

Facing this difficulty they did what any healthy American perverts would do, and they each sought out other people to play with. Subby guys for her, subby girls for him. And we must admit, the occasional subby girl for her too. They built a large and comfortable bdsm studio, and like kids in a candy store stocked it with every darn kinky thing they could find. Speaking of kids, they also managed to avoid having any of the little monsters knowing that children and their kink-centered lifestyle were not compatible.

Then, with no particular plan, everything changed.

She was given a couple of tickets to Maui, but he had to work and couldn’t accompany her. As she didn’t want to go alone he suggested that she take a fellow whom she had been playing with, but not sexual with, for a number of years.

The second day of her trip she called him up at his office and said that she had been so turned on the night before that this night she intended to have sex with her traveling partner. He replied that it sounded like a good plan to him, their marriage had never been a monogamous one, and neither of them particularly believes that monogamy is a wonderful thing. No big deal.

But of course, it turns out that it was. It was a very big deal. It is in fact the entire reason we are here, writing this journal.

Very soon, while her husband was traveling out of town for work, her former traveling companion, now lover was staying at the house with her, and it was a few days every week, right from the start.

This was two years ago, and this turn of events is what finally allowed us to find that very elusive bdsm relationship that we had searched for over so many years. Actually it is not proper to call our relationship a bdsm relationship, for it does not include many of the elements commonly thought of as bdsm. It is a Dominant/submissive relationship, for clearly she has taken to making all of the rules that govern it, and he has taken to submitting to those rules. It is a Mistress/slave relationship, for clearly she has acted as a slave owner will and created those rules without the communication or negotiation that are hallmarks of consensual bdsm, and he has like any slave been presented only one choice, to submit without complaint to her rules, or loose the relationship. Lastly it is a female superiority relationship, for she has required it to be focused entirely upon her female sexuality.

After so many years of struggling to find a way in which we were compatible in the dungeon, we are of course thrilled to have finally found the perfect kinky relationship for ourselves. Especially since it was a complete accident. We didn’t plan it; we didn’t think about it, we didn’t even realize it was happening until it did.

Shortly after those multi day visits with her lover while here husband was out of town working she decided that her lover would simply be here with us each and every weekend. That she and her lover would share the bed in her room, and that her husband, we can start calling him Cuckold now would stay in a downstairs bedroom. She didn’t ask Cuckold if this was OK with him, or attempt to negotiate as good perverts do, she simply did it, and he was required to obey. To, when he wasn’t invited to watch or participate just lay in bed alone listening to them find pleasure with each other.

He hadn’t participated in their erotic encounters, or even watched very many, less certainly than the fingers on a single hand when she decided that such pleasures would no longer belong to her husband. She simply banned him from those encounters, and he remains banned to this day. Again he was not consulted, was not asked for his thoughts, she simply created her law, her rule, and required him to obey.

Very soon she stopped actively hiding the nature of her relationship with her lover. Likely a subconscious desire to further humiliate her husband led her to this decision, and she started displaying affection towards her lover in places where she would obviously be seen, and started showing him off to all of their friends. Again, this was not negotiated or discussed, she simply required Cuckold to cheerfully submit to this new humiliation.

Almost exactly a year passed by while all of the above, and of course all the things we are forgetting to include, transpired.

When that year had gone by she moved her dominance, and his slavery to a much higher level. She banned him from having intercourse with her. Not a temporary ban, not a fun game of denial, simply a flat out decision that she had fucked her husband for the very last time in their lives. Like all the previous years decisions she did not ask for his opinion on it, or his consent, she simply decreed it and demanded that he obey. That was roughly a year after that fateful trip to Maui, and a little bit more than a year ago. She has of course remained true to her word and he has been given no opportunity to enter her.

Very soon after the ban on intercourse with Cuckold she banned him from giving her oral sex as well. She had removed all possibility of him ever giving Mistress another orgasm. Of course once again she did not ask for his view on this step, or for his consent, she simply commanded him to obey.

After another very short period of time she made the final decision in his sexual enslavement and banned him having any sexual contact with Mistress. He is allowed no erotic touching of her exciting bits. Of course, she asked for no consent, and of course he obeyed her demands.

That is where our relationship now stands. It likely seems very strange to most who will read this journal, but we are both absolutely thrilled with it. We have finally figured out a way in which to exchange power with each other, and our love for each other continues to grow. Not to mention she is having amazing sex with a man she adores, and he is intoxicated by her brazen abuse of power and her utter disregard for his concerns.

This rise in power for her, and descent into slavery for him have occurred in two distinct times with a good deal of adjustment time in between. Now we think that she will be expanding her power and increasing his slavery again very soon. Cuckold doesn’t know what she has in mind, and Mistress will not tell here in this post for then he would, but we think her new demands will likely focus on orgasm denial, extreme anal training, extreme verbal humiliation, and a very nasty regular duty or two. She has hinted to Cuckold that these are on her mind, and likely they are, or perhaps they are a ruse. Our readers here will find out for sure just as soon as he does. One thing is for certain, whatever she decides to do we are sure that it will be extreme, for as her cuckolding and sexual bans show, we play well when we play at the extreme edge.

From Empress Lauren

While browsing Google we just found a post by Empress Lauren, a phone sex operator entitled “Affectionate Contempt: The Life of a Cuckold Husband.”

While we think that the post was written mainly for it’s entertainment value, Lauren certainly coined a terrific phrase in our view, and the point she makes is valuable.

We think that we can safely define affection as having and showing feelings of fondness, a non-passionate, gentle love.

Mistress’s love for Cuckold is not passionate, not sexual; it is a fondness, a gentle love. We therefore think that Lauren’s ‘Affectionate’ is suited.

We think that we can safely define contempt as the feeling that someone is deserving of scorn, and can be disregarded.

Cuckold is certainly deserving of scorn, why just the other night you should have heard Mistress talking about how glad she is that she will never fuck him again, and how much better the sex she receives from her lover is than anything Cuckold could ever provide.

We seem to remember her saying “I put up with you fucking me for 18 years, so I’m looking forward to giving your ass 18 years of brutal strap-on fucking.” Ah, but now we are getting off on a tangent, for you see Mistress possesses an extremely tiny cunt, and when Cuckold was still permitted sex he often would not provide enough foreplay or lubricant to make it comfortable for her. Cuckold does fear that as Mistress continues to remember his poor performance, brutality on the end of her dildo will be forever his fate.

The fun and games aside, and back to the matter at hand, it is also reasonable to say that Mistress feels Cuckold can be disregarded. His opinions and fears were disregarded, not even asked after, regarding both his cuckolding, and the banning of his sexual contact with her.

Having thought about it, yes, we like Lauren’s phrase. ‘Affectionate Contempt’ rather fits Mistress’s feelings about Cuckold.

Now we must say though, that Cuckold’s feelings are quite a bit more powerful and passionate, especially when her cries of pleasure escape her bedroom to enter his, or he is allowed to place the tip of his tongue upon her gorgeous asshole.

The Current State Of Our Relationship

We thought that a post explaining the current state of our relationship would be helpful to those who choose to read the blog. While ours, like all relationships, is always changing, here is a snapshot of where we are right now, ‘the highlights’ to steal a sports phrase.

His is a cuckold. Our relationship is not one of playful, fun and games, cuckoldry, he is very seriously cuckolded. Nor do we think that his cuckolding is exactly consensual cuckolding. She has simply cuckolded him, as she desires without consultation or discussion with him. He has simply been required to submit to her decisions.

He has also been banned from sexual contact with Mistress. He may not have sex with her in any form, nor even touch her body in an erotic manner. The only sex-life existing within the relationship is the sex-life Mistress enjoys with others. We also do not believe that this removal of sexual intimacy from Cuckold’s life is exactly consensual. She simply, over a period of less than a month, progressed from disallowing him to have intercourse with her to disallowing him from having any sexual contact with her. She simply made these decisions as she desired and informed him of them. He has of course been simply required to obey.

In most explorations of cuckolding limitations are agreed to regarding the outside partner(s). Limitations about whom the woman may explore with, how or how often she may date, and how serious the outside relationship will get. She accepts no such limitations. She demands, and indeed exercises, absolute freedom regarding her cuckolding of him. She has her outside relationship(s) on her terms. Currently Mistress’s lover lives with Mistress and Cuckold about 50% of the time, and has been doing so for about 2 years. She did not and has not sought out the opinions or concerns of Cuckold on this topic. She simply has made it clear that if he has any thoughts or concerns, they are irrelevant.

In our relationship Mistress demands her right to sexual fulfillment, and does not recognize any similar right for Cuckold. In practice this results in her, and her lover experiencing sexual pleasure together while Cuckold is ignored, put to bed alone. He has been made to accept that within the relationship sex exists for her pleasure alone, and that only one sexuality may exist within the relationship. Her sexuality.

It is demanded that Cuckold support and help Mistress’s cuckolding of him. He may not act out or in other ways express dissatisfaction or disapproval of her intimate and loving activities with others. He is required to show pleasure when the finds sexual fulfillment with another man, and of course must treat the other man with respect, not resentment.

Mistress does not feel that she need spare him embarrassment over his cuckolding and has not made efforts to hide it. Most neighbors and friends know about Cuckold’s status, and are quite used to Mistress showering affection upon her lover in front of them as Cuckold is treated as a non-intimate friend.

All of our vacations over the past two years have either been the two of us plus Mistress’s lover, or just the two of them without Cuckold. Romantic vacations with just the two of them over the past couple of years have included Hawaii and Vancouver Island. Another trip to Hawaii is currently planned for this winter.

Most cuckolding relationships encourage and give participation to the husband. Ours does not. Cuckold is banned from participating in, watching, and generally even being told about Mistress’s sexual encounters. He does however hear the occasional moan and cry escaping her bedroom. Cuckold was allowed to participate at the very beginning of Mistress’s current outside relationship, but was banned from doing so very soon after that romantic involvement begin. As in all aspects of her cuckoldry, his opinion on the matter was not sought for it was irrelevant to her. Her decision was simply made, and his obedience both assumed and demanded.

Cuckold is not allowed to penetrate Mistress. He is required to accept the fact that he will never again be permitted to enter her. He is made to simply accept this and not ask for intercourse, or indicate a desire for it. It has now been a bit over a year since Cuckold was last allowed intercourse with her.

Cuckold is not allowed to give Mistress oral sex. He may not kiss or lick her cunt, nor indicate a desire to do so. He must accept that this will be the rule throughout the remainder of the relationship. The banning of Cuckold from giving oral sex came very soon after the banning of him from intercourse, so he has not kissed or licked Mistress’s cunt for roughly one year now.

Mistress has reserved all other possible sexual contact for others. Cuckold may not kiss or erotically touch any erogenous part of her body. He is required to understand that her cunt and breasts are forever off limits to him. This final ban, the ban of all sexual contact with Mistress for Cuckold came again only a short time after the ban on his giving her oral sex, so it has been a long time indeed since Cuckold has touched or kissed any intimate part of her body. Again, Cuckolds opinion was not sought out about these decisions. Mistress simply decided to ban him from any sexual contact, and demanded that he obey.

From time to time Mistress does allow cuckold to sniff, kiss, or lick her ass and asshole. He must understand however that this is a privilege that could be revoked for any reason or no reason, and likely would be revoked if a lover expressed strong desire to pleasure her ass with his mouth.

There you have them, the current highlights of our relationship. Mistress did not seek, nor did she deem important whatever opinions Cuckold may have had on either her very serious outside relationship, nor her decisions to remove sexual contact from the relationship. She simply made her decisions, informed him of them, stuck with them, and demanded that he obey them.

Her Opinions

We are going to attempt writing this blog always as ‘we’ never ‘I’ or ‘me.’ We plan to do this even if we are posting about a very personal, or controversial opinion.

We have decided to do this because it is about our relationship.

When it comes to our relationship, we are two people, but there is room only for one opinion. Her opinion.

At it’s fundamental core our relationship is based upon very simple principals:
1. She decides what will be done regarding the relationship.
2. He obeys.
There is no question about this; it is just how it is.

He is not allowed expression of any opinion regarding the relationship different from her opinion. This is a form of his obedience, recognition that within the relationship the opinions of the dominant partner are the only ones that count.

Let us give a couple of examples.

He probably would like to hold the opinion that he wants to fuck her. Her opinion however is the only opinion that matters, and her opinion is that not only will he never fuck her again; he will never even touch her cunt in an erotic manner again. She doesn’t want to hear whining, begging, or bitching, she expects him to accept her opinion and obey. She expects him to, as he is required, accept and embrace the fact that she will not tolerate him having sexual contact with her.

He probably would like to hold the opinion that it would be better if all of their neighbors didn’t know that he is her cuckold. Her opinion is however the only opinion that matters, and her opinion is that she likes to shower her lover affection when he pulls into the driveway. Cuckold might be humiliated, but Mistress does not feel his pain, and his pain is not her concern. She doesn’t want to hear him begging, whining, or bitching about the fact that she has again humiliated him, she expects him to accept her opinion and obey. She expects him to, as he is required, embrace and accept the fact that he is a cuckold and she doesn’t much care who might know it.

That is why we choose to write as a couple as opposed to individuals. We are two, but when it comes to the relationship we are of one opinion only. Her opinion.

Emotional Masochism

Due to the very unique nature of our relationship we thought it very important to make this post the foundation of this journal. For without it we think that readers could become easily confused as to the true nature of our relationship, and see it as one of misery as opposed to joy and love.

We do not believe that Cuckolds particular kink is unique, but we do think that it is quite rare, and for that reason perhaps it can be difficult for some otherwise kinky people to understand.

Cuckold is not a physical masochist. While it is true that his balls are in for some tremendous crushing and twisting anytime they are in Mistress’s fist, and that his cock regularly suffers a similar fate, and we suppose that to be honest his nipples do get a goodly amount of vicious attention, he just isn’t much into physical pain. Spankings, whips, clamps, wax; these things just aren’t necessarily his thing.

It seems that most submissives are to one degree or another physical masochists. They crave physical pain that they accept, and then twist into pleasure. Some of course can do this with extremely high levels of physical pain, something that a vanilla person could never understand if he or she were to watch a heavy torture encounter.

Cuckold is however an emotional masochist. He craves emotional pain the way most submissives crave physical pain, and it doesn’t really hurt him. It fulfills him and gives him joy. The emotional pain Mistress gives him is intense, often extremely intense, but his mind somehow turns that emotional pain into pleasure. Just as physical masochists crave and seek out physical pain, he craves and seeks out emotional pain.

It did take both Cuckold and Mistress a very long time to understand and accept the fact of this emotional masochism that resides within him, and we can’t hope to have all of our readers understand. We ask simply that you trust us on the point. Just as with a vanilla person watching a torture scene could never understand it, a vanilla person with full view of our relationship could never understand it.

We feel that we should at this point bring up safety, for ‘Safe, Sane, and Consensual’ and ‘Risk Aware Consensual Kink’ are the mantra by which bdsm and in our specific case D/s is supposed to live by. We believe that Cuckold’s emotional masochism is emotionally safe for him. We believe it safe because he does not suffer emotional torture as a negative, rather it is a positive for him, just as physical pain is a positive for a physical masochist.

We believe that our relationship is mentally and emotionally safe for both of us. We have also been extremely heavily involved with bdsm for over 20 years. We know how to play physically as safe as possible, and we do so. Consent is another matter. We have moved beyond it. If he doesn’t like what she does with men other than him tough. He has no safeword to escape his cuckolding, no veto over her sexual explorations, he has no choice but to tolerate them or loose our relationship. If he doesn’t like the fact that he will never again in his life stroke her nipples, tough. He has no safeword to protect him from the restrictions she has placed upon him, no right to any contact beyond that which she allows. He has no choice but to tolerate her restrictions or loose our relationship.

Mistress and Cuckold deeply love each other, more today than at any time in the past. Much of that love is however dependent upon the relationship as it exists today. That said, Mistress makes the decisions about the relationship and Cuckold need not consent, he is expected to simply obey.

It is true, as you have gathered if you have read this far, that Cuckold suffers a great deal of emotional cruelty on an ongoing basis. It must be remembered though that he has the ability to process it into a wonderful, erotic, and positive experience, and he needs that in his life. Just as a physical masochist needs physical pain.

Non-Fiction

This blog presents a completely honest view of our relationship. We post no fiction here.