The Current State Of Our Relationship

We thought that a post explaining the current state of our relationship would be helpful to those who choose to read the blog. While ours, like all relationships, is always changing, here is a snapshot of where we are right now, ‘the highlights’ to steal a sports phrase.

His is a cuckold. Our relationship is not one of playful, fun and games, cuckoldry, he is very seriously cuckolded. Nor do we think that his cuckolding is exactly consensual cuckolding. She has simply cuckolded him, as she desires without consultation or discussion with him. He has simply been required to submit to her decisions.

He has also been banned from sexual contact with Mistress. He may not have sex with her in any form, nor even touch her body in an erotic manner. The only sex-life existing within the relationship is the sex-life Mistress enjoys with others. We also do not believe that this removal of sexual intimacy from Cuckold’s life is exactly consensual. She simply, over a period of less than a month, progressed from disallowing him to have intercourse with her to disallowing him from having any sexual contact with her. She simply made these decisions as she desired and informed him of them. He has of course been simply required to obey.

In most explorations of cuckolding limitations are agreed to regarding the outside partner(s). Limitations about whom the woman may explore with, how or how often she may date, and how serious the outside relationship will get. She accepts no such limitations. She demands, and indeed exercises, absolute freedom regarding her cuckolding of him. She has her outside relationship(s) on her terms. Currently Mistress’s lover lives with Mistress and Cuckold about 50% of the time, and has been doing so for about 2 years. She did not and has not sought out the opinions or concerns of Cuckold on this topic. She simply has made it clear that if he has any thoughts or concerns, they are irrelevant.

In our relationship Mistress demands her right to sexual fulfillment, and does not recognize any similar right for Cuckold. In practice this results in her, and her lover experiencing sexual pleasure together while Cuckold is ignored, put to bed alone. He has been made to accept that within the relationship sex exists for her pleasure alone, and that only one sexuality may exist within the relationship. Her sexuality.

It is demanded that Cuckold support and help Mistress’s cuckolding of him. He may not act out or in other ways express dissatisfaction or disapproval of her intimate and loving activities with others. He is required to show pleasure when the finds sexual fulfillment with another man, and of course must treat the other man with respect, not resentment.

Mistress does not feel that she need spare him embarrassment over his cuckolding and has not made efforts to hide it. Most neighbors and friends know about Cuckold’s status, and are quite used to Mistress showering affection upon her lover in front of them as Cuckold is treated as a non-intimate friend.

All of our vacations over the past two years have either been the two of us plus Mistress’s lover, or just the two of them without Cuckold. Romantic vacations with just the two of them over the past couple of years have included Hawaii and Vancouver Island. Another trip to Hawaii is currently planned for this winter.

Most cuckolding relationships encourage and give participation to the husband. Ours does not. Cuckold is banned from participating in, watching, and generally even being told about Mistress’s sexual encounters. He does however hear the occasional moan and cry escaping her bedroom. Cuckold was allowed to participate at the very beginning of Mistress’s current outside relationship, but was banned from doing so very soon after that romantic involvement begin. As in all aspects of her cuckoldry, his opinion on the matter was not sought for it was irrelevant to her. Her decision was simply made, and his obedience both assumed and demanded.

Cuckold is not allowed to penetrate Mistress. He is required to accept the fact that he will never again be permitted to enter her. He is made to simply accept this and not ask for intercourse, or indicate a desire for it. It has now been a bit over a year since Cuckold was last allowed intercourse with her.

Cuckold is not allowed to give Mistress oral sex. He may not kiss or lick her cunt, nor indicate a desire to do so. He must accept that this will be the rule throughout the remainder of the relationship. The banning of Cuckold from giving oral sex came very soon after the banning of him from intercourse, so he has not kissed or licked Mistress’s cunt for roughly one year now.

Mistress has reserved all other possible sexual contact for others. Cuckold may not kiss or erotically touch any erogenous part of her body. He is required to understand that her cunt and breasts are forever off limits to him. This final ban, the ban of all sexual contact with Mistress for Cuckold came again only a short time after the ban on his giving her oral sex, so it has been a long time indeed since Cuckold has touched or kissed any intimate part of her body. Again, Cuckolds opinion was not sought out about these decisions. Mistress simply decided to ban him from any sexual contact, and demanded that he obey.

From time to time Mistress does allow cuckold to sniff, kiss, or lick her ass and asshole. He must understand however that this is a privilege that could be revoked for any reason or no reason, and likely would be revoked if a lover expressed strong desire to pleasure her ass with his mouth.

There you have them, the current highlights of our relationship. Mistress did not seek, nor did she deem important whatever opinions Cuckold may have had on either her very serious outside relationship, nor her decisions to remove sexual contact from the relationship. She simply made her decisions, informed him of them, stuck with them, and demanded that he obey them.