Emotional Masochism

Due to the very unique nature of our relationship we thought it very important to make this post the foundation of this journal. For without it we think that readers could become easily confused as to the true nature of our relationship, and see it as one of misery as opposed to joy and love.

We do not believe that Cuckolds particular kink is unique, but we do think that it is quite rare, and for that reason perhaps it can be difficult for some otherwise kinky people to understand.

Cuckold is not a physical masochist. While it is true that his balls are in for some tremendous crushing and twisting anytime they are in Mistress’s fist, and that his cock regularly suffers a similar fate, and we suppose that to be honest his nipples do get a goodly amount of vicious attention, he just isn’t much into physical pain. Spankings, whips, clamps, wax; these things just aren’t necessarily his thing.

It seems that most submissives are to one degree or another physical masochists. They crave physical pain that they accept, and then twist into pleasure. Some of course can do this with extremely high levels of physical pain, something that a vanilla person could never understand if he or she were to watch a heavy torture encounter.

Cuckold is however an emotional masochist. He craves emotional pain the way most submissives crave physical pain, and it doesn’t really hurt him. It fulfills him and gives him joy. The emotional pain Mistress gives him is intense, often extremely intense, but his mind somehow turns that emotional pain into pleasure. Just as physical masochists crave and seek out physical pain, he craves and seeks out emotional pain.

It did take both Cuckold and Mistress a very long time to understand and accept the fact of this emotional masochism that resides within him, and we can’t hope to have all of our readers understand. We ask simply that you trust us on the point. Just as with a vanilla person watching a torture scene could never understand it, a vanilla person with full view of our relationship could never understand it.

We feel that we should at this point bring up safety, for ‘Safe, Sane, and Consensual’ and ‘Risk Aware Consensual Kink’ are the mantra by which bdsm and in our specific case D/s is supposed to live by. We believe that Cuckold’s emotional masochism is emotionally safe for him. We believe it safe because he does not suffer emotional torture as a negative, rather it is a positive for him, just as physical pain is a positive for a physical masochist.

We believe that our relationship is mentally and emotionally safe for both of us. We have also been extremely heavily involved with bdsm for over 20 years. We know how to play physically as safe as possible, and we do so. Consent is another matter. We have moved beyond it. If he doesn’t like what she does with men other than him tough. He has no safeword to escape his cuckolding, no veto over her sexual explorations, he has no choice but to tolerate them or loose our relationship. If he doesn’t like the fact that he will never again in his life stroke her nipples, tough. He has no safeword to protect him from the restrictions she has placed upon him, no right to any contact beyond that which she allows. He has no choice but to tolerate her restrictions or loose our relationship.

Mistress and Cuckold deeply love each other, more today than at any time in the past. Much of that love is however dependent upon the relationship as it exists today. That said, Mistress makes the decisions about the relationship and Cuckold need not consent, he is expected to simply obey.

It is true, as you have gathered if you have read this far, that Cuckold suffers a great deal of emotional cruelty on an ongoing basis. It must be remembered though that he has the ability to process it into a wonderful, erotic, and positive experience, and he needs that in his life. Just as a physical masochist needs physical pain.